Accept it or not, the bond that your parents share has a huge impact on your psychology and your behaviour. Children learn what they see, if they see the bonding between their parents they’ll learn it and if they see arguments they’ll learn it too.How parents treat each other is how children treat their friends or partner in their later life because that’s how they have known to by treat people. Below are four aspects of your life that are affected by your parents’ relationship.
1. Your own romantic relationship
How you treat your spouse or partner depends hugely on how your parents have treated each other. Especially, the boy will try to replicate his father and the girl her mother. If the parents treat each other with respect, the kids will do the same with their spouses. We learn what we see and we accept it as the truth. If the couple keeps on arguing and fighting their child might refrain himself from getting married or getting into a relationship due to what he has seen between his parents.
2. How you handle conflict
We often have a tendency to repeat patterns of conflict that we have seen in our parents’ relationship in our own relationships because this is what we have grown used to. It’s a common human tendency to learn from what we see. No school teaches life lessons like how to deal with problems and conflicts in real life and everyone learns it from their near and dear ones. So how your parents deal with the arguments is how you will be dealing in future unless you think of a better way all by yourself
3. Your ability to be vulnerable
If you stay in an abusive household where either of your parents is vulnerable to abuse from another parent physical or verbal. It affects your desire to be vulnerable to a similar situation, which means it might affect your desire to get married or giving someone the power to hurt you but being vulnerable with friends, with family, with romantic partners etc. Leads to growth and change in you.
4. How you express emotions
How and how much you express yourself depends on the household you belong to. If your parents don’t express themselves or restrict the expression to only certain emotions, even you learn to hide your emotions. Many families don’t express their love to each other but are always ready to express the anger and resentment, this definitely shapes the child’s mind into thinking that it’s not right to express love but right to express anger. You must understand that no feelings should be suppressed and its perfectly fine to express your anger, sadness and love.