Maybe you were emotionally or physically harmed by someone. You may have experienced another traumatic event, such as a fire, a natural disaster, or an armed robbery. Or perhaps you’ve just gotten out of a difficult scenario, and even though you know you’ll get better someday, the agony you’re in still seems intolerable.

Whatever the situation, you have been scarred and carry that scar with you for the most of the time.

The majority of us can connect to that emotion in some way.

1.Define your suffering, first.

It’s not always simple to recognize and comprehend what’s causing you pain. Some people even continue to be in abusive relationships because they believe it to be safer than confronting the many layers of their suffering, including their low self-esteem, which makes them believe they deserve it, their shame at being subjected to such cruelty, and their sense of desperation, which makes them believe there is no real way out.

2. Feel that anguish and express it.

You can’t always tell the person who injured you how you feel, and even if you do, there’s no guarantee they’ll react the way you want them to. In any case, say what has to be said.

3. Try to remain in the here and now.

It’s seductive to live in the past. It provides you the chance to try it again and react differently—to resist rather than give in, to express your opinions rather than keep quiet.

4. Quit repeating the narrative.

Sometimes, in order to postpone moving past the past, we retell painful stories over and over again.

It could seem like another way to make sense of what occurred, or it might seem reassuring to hear someone claim you didn’t deserve to be wounded since you didn’t do anything wrong. It’s acceptable if you require that for a time.

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