Here are the steps to developing genuine self-love.
Recognize the source of your self-esteem.
Liking or not loving oneself begins with your beliefs about who you are, what you believe about your goodness and worthiness, and your notions about what makes a person lovable or unlovable. Of all, the majority of the negative views you have about yourself stem from what you were taught to believe about yourself by caregivers, instructors, friends, and acquaintances, as well as magazines and movies! As impressionable young people, we unintentionally adopt other people’s beliefs about us and messages from our culture, many of which are simply misperceptions and misconceptions, and these notions harden into who we believe we are.
Monitor your old thinking.
Begin by rejecting all the nonsense your brain tells you about yourself, such as “You’re too anti-social, too grouchy, etc.” or the sneakier first-person version, “I’m not smart enough.” I’m overly sensitive. “There’s something wrong with me.” To begin “disbelieving” such things, take some time to evaluate the negative views you’ve absorbed about yourself, both from others and from the flaw-seeking region of your brain.
Create a “soft landing” within yourself for when difficult emotions arise.
Consider this a friendly zone in your own mind and heart where you can meet yourself with the same warmth you would give a dear friend who is angry or hurt. A metaphorical refuge where you can find solace. As if you had the coziest cozy blanket inside your heart that you could wrap around yourself whenever you needed it. So, even if you’ve made a mistake, as we all do, or spoken something you regret, failed to achieve a goal, been criticized by someone or even yourself! or you’ve done something you’re not proud of, you can turn to yourself and be received with kindness and warmth from within.
Choose to focus on what you like and appreciate in yourself.
It might be as simple as asking oneself, “How do I like myself?” Allow your mind to wander in search of several small solutions. Nothing is too insignificant. Because emotion follows thinking, when you find things to admire about yourself, you will feel better about yourself. You’ll need to be deliberate about all of this for several weeks or months. This will rewire your brain over time so that you naturally and effortlessly notice your best and feel great about yourself. If you are an HSP like myself, this essay will provide you with some excellent beginning points.
Also Read: 11 Ways To Release Self-Neglect And Love Yourself
