Sometimes unknowingly, the closest people tend to hurt us with their gestures, behaviour and words. However, noticing and expressing those things is essential to every relationship, friendship or any relationship. Though telling someone who has hurt you is the most challenging thing, having that aspect in every bond is necessary, or something may become bitter every day.
When communicating, it is crucial to express how you feel and how things make you feel low, but sometimes this may go differently, and they may start feeling guilty and unhappy. So here are ways you should have this conversation.
Firstly, start the conversation on a positive note. Express your appreciation for the other and the good things about your relationship, as this will make things go better and sweet.
Secondly, instead of directly jumping on to what they have been saying or doing hurts you, express how you feel. For example, use ‘I’ statements that make things a bit better and seem correct to them.
Once you express your feelings, talk about specific actions, words or things that hurt you. Then, let others apologise for their mistake.
Don’t go on attacking them with direct blame and criticise their behaviour. But be wise and clear about how things went wrong so that you can work on it together. Do not make any assumptions.
Lastly, listen to the other person carefully before jumping to a conclusion. And focus on finding a way out and supporting each other.
