It is a normal instinct to make our loved ones feel better so we tend to force our decisions on them. We justify the validity of our own experiences and the decisions in our lives, which ends you in a corralling, convincing way with logic and then they reluctantly concede.
However, when it comes to important and more deep-diving discussions, you are likely to listen more carefully and you have already decided which course the conversation is going to take even before it has been opened up in front of you.
Even before they have completed themselves, you form the other’s end of thoughts. And half way through their sentence you are likely to interrupt them, putting forth your views.
Yes, you have understood the world based on your experiences and you must have a personalised schema on how the world works but you don’t have to force it on anyone else.
When you put forth your views before letting them finish, their cry for help gets overlooked. There are better ways of approaching emotional conversations than the traditional ones. Your patience, listening skills and ability is put to test and you reach that point where you understand their point of view.
Even though you wish for deep and compelling change upon the lives of your loved ones, it is not possible to force it. As per various discoveries, it is important to let others’ stories be vocalised. It should be heard from various important and relevant angles. It provides them an opportunity to think creatively from different perspectives and approaches and also helps them find a good solution to their problems.
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