When you’ve been betrayed by someone you held in high regard, your goal should be to understand and deal with your feelings. Do not try to hide your pain. Learning to rebuild trust, however cautiously, is the greatest way to heal a betrayed heart.
There is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all solution. Your healing is just as personal as your pain. However, there are measures you can take to overcome all of those dreadful negative emotions and reclaim your calm.
To be able to heal and recover from the setback, say the following to someone who has wronged you:
1. ‘I am upset with you, and I will not deny it’
Pretending everything is fine is the worst thing you can do at this moment. Understand that when you can’t trust somebody again and your current relationship foundation is shattered, nothing will be right. Allow yourself to vent your rage and irritation. Meditation or chatting to an empathic person can help you go deeper into the recesses of your mind.
2. ‘I don’t want you to come back’
Somebody who has deceived you has implied that your emotions and concerns are unimportant to him or her. He wouldn’t have stabbed you in the back if it did. So go ahead and tell them how you feel. It’s pointless to stay with someone who has betrayed you and cannot be trusted. This is especially critical if they have previously violated your confidence and show no remorse.
3. ‘Thank you for showing me what I shouldn’t accept’
What should you do if someone you trust betrays you? Remember that every bad thing happens to teach us something, therefore treat it as such. Treat dealing with someone who has deceived you as an opportunity to learn valuable lessons from the failed relationship. Perhaps your betrayed lover or acquaintance taught you to be more cautious with your trust.
4. ‘You don’t matter; my recovery does’
Do not dwell on the hurt created by someone who has deceived you for too long. Make a solid plan to recuperate and regain your health. The greatest approach to get over a betrayal is to be happy and successful, so focus on things that will bring you back to life and revitalize the elements of your life that have been ignored thus far.
Your partnership is only a little part of your life (though it may have seemed otherwise when you were cheated upon). You have your friends, your work, your family, and a bright future ahead of you.
5. ‘I’m going to love myself more than I loved you’
The consequences of betrayal or disloyalty can be life-changing. But it’s up to you whether you want to come out of it stronger and wiser, or if you want to wallow in self-pity, paint the rest of the world with the same brush, and deny yourself the love and friendship you so dearly deserve. Make a wise decision.
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