Both love and hatred are feelings that are aimed at someone else because of who they are. The two seem to be complete opposites despite their similarities. When we care for someone, we frequently want them to succeed. When we detest someone, we are more inclined to desire their pain or at the very least for them to change.

However, we need not listen to The Persuaders’ soulful voices to understand that hate and love are not incompatible. You may despise someone you love, as everybody who has ever experienced love knows. But how is it even conceivable?

She is unloving of you and a bad person.

The situation when your love is not returned is the most straightforward example of how you may hate and love someone at the same time. It might be difficult to understand why someone you love might not love you if you believe that you are, on the whole, a lovable person. If you already lack confidence, this will do further damage to your self-esteem.

Love robs you of your personal autonomy

It is simple to understand how unrequited love may coexist with hatred. But even if your love for someone is returned and your relationship with them is generally happy, you might still loathe them.

You Become Vulnerable in Love

You must be able to be yourself in order to establish a genuine relationship with another individual. That does not usually work out well. People we encounter at work, at the grocery store, or on the metro may not always see us for who we truly are. However, you must be able to perform some of that work at home. You must be open about your flaws so that the other person may see and understand them. However, this makes you more open to attack.

The other individual is flawed

However, you are not the only one who has to reveal your genuine self. The other party in the connection needs to be able to act authentically and open up as well. When this occurs, you are able to notice all of their less-than-admirable qualities—flaws that most people wouldn’t dare to associate with them.